Daring to Delve into Delicious Depths

**Disclaimer: My opinion does not de-value your relationship or marriage. Congratulations for you, sincerely! I am so happy you followed your heart and are living your ideal. I truly support people to live and express love exactly how THEY choose to, as long as it doesn't bring harm to another person. **

If you have talked to me lately or read any of my posts on facebook... you'll know that marriage, love, and relationships have been at the front of my mind. 

Not the want of getting into one...

But exploring what they actually mean, what they mean to me.

And before you get your hopes up that this blog post holds the answers and my findings, I still don't know. 

I feel like I've plunged into a huge deep unknown. 

From the time we are little, we are told that we grow up, go to college, get married, have kids. 

We play 'married' as children.. you be the mommy! I'll be the daddy! 

We are fed rules, boundaries, perceptions, expectations as to what our relationship should look like. 

When I tell people I'm not sure I'll ever get married (in a happy, light, very much okay way), I'm met with:

"Don't worry, love will come around!"

"But you are so beautiful, kind, wonderful!! It would be such a waste"

"You just haven't found the right one yet." 

But I'm fine.......REALLY. 

And is it a waste if I don't get married?

...is love EVER a waste? 

Which isn't to say I'm not open to falling in love, getting married.

I just know that for me personally, I don't see it as the ultimate goal.

I understand that for myself relationships can mean meeting, coming together on this path, learning/growing/loving madly and deeply, and then parting when the time is right. 

Accepting heart break, heart ache, letting my heart burst open so that I can experience even more love. 

 

Maybe even ASKING for heartbreak.

As you can tell, my feelings about it are a little all over the place.

I am in love with all of my wonderful friends, with animals.. How you chose to show up in this lifetime doesn't concern me, male or female, I choose to love you. 

Lost in Love,

Sandesh